It’s that time for millennial's where our friends and colleagues are announcing that they’re expecting. It’s a bit astounding but nonetheless, it’s happening. The ones closest to us are transitioning into parenthood and many of us are still trying to grasp the idea of becoming a fully functioning adult.
Pregnancy is a sacred time for many expecting mothers and it’s important that the ones truly closest to her show support like never before. Studies show that people with a strong support system are less likely to develop postpartum depression. This doesn’t necessarily mean depression won’t happen, but having support can lessen the chances. I had one of my best friends share her entire pregnancy experience with me and it was new for the both of us. Luckily, she didn’t experience any sickness in the beginning but there were moments of doubt where I found myself having to pick her up through reassurance. Motherhood is so indescribable. No matter how much you plan, you’re never FULLY ready. So we both accepted that this will be a journey, and I vowed to be there every step of the way.
From hearing about doctors appointments, the cravings and stress about the baby shower, the days seemed to fly by as she began picking names for the baby and planning his arrival. I’ve experienced her extreme mood swings and times where she did not want to be bothered with me. Even during her labor, I wasn’t the first person she wanted to see. But it was all worth it once he arrived. An experience like pregnancy can truly build up the bond you share with your friends. Friends become family and eventually a village for the baby. Being a supportive friend during the pregnancy and after the baby is born will mean so much to the mother.
● If she is ever feeling overwhelmed, offer advice out of love. Listen to her and empathize.
● Do research to see if there’s any additional care you can show to the mother or baby. It will show her you truly care and that you are taking initiative to make sure they are OK.
● Set time aside to call or text your friend whenever they cross your mind.
● Be readily available. Your friend may want to simply talk to keep their mind off of other things, or she may really need you to be there.
● Always know, if you were in the situation, your friend would do the same. Being a supportive friend is truly a job, but it pays off in the end when you experience something similar.
I am truly grateful that she allowed me the opportunity to experience pregnancy. I feel like I know a lot more about being pregnant, labor and other factors that I never knew came with
motherhood. I also feel like this brought us together closer than before. She made me the godmother of her son and that is so rewarding after this experience.
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